“家”教
提到法国,似乎浪漫总是排第一位的印象。在互惠生活里,浪漫这种特质也代表着敏感和重感情:优点是法国哥哥姐姐经常带领孩子一起做出让爸爸妈妈非常感动的事,也很容易会被中国家庭的善意所感动,缺点就是情绪容易受到外界影响 (这一点和南美国家很像)。
家庭背景:
法国学生的家庭背景往往很不错,父母都是高级白领的上班族居多,多数学生的家庭仅是一到两个孩子。中国经常讲到的“家教很好”,在法国互惠生身上体现得比较明显。
项目时长:
较长,6-12个月的居多。在项目周期中表现也很稳定。
陪伴孩子:
也许是法国文化的影响,在陪伴孩子这件事上,法国学生受情绪和感觉方面因素影响比较大。如果孩子刚一开始就喜欢他,他也对孩子特别喜欢,那么恭喜您!他就像一个天使一样降临了。他一定是最好的互惠生,并且会越来越相处愉快。尽管生活中会有小摩擦,法国的哥哥姐姐也会努力地去维系感情而不轻易放弃。但如果刚开始就不太顺利,孩子对他有所抵触,法国学生受到打击后就容易沮丧。因此和法国学生在匹配过程中的视频见面环节,我们都鼓励家庭孩子也要参与。
对于中国家庭教育:
法国学生也从小就很独立,高中或大学都是自己搬离父母住。所以在带领中国家庭孩子的独立性培养方面是个很好的榜样。他们不太在意中国的家庭教育观念,这方面显得有些“随性”。如果您肯定了他们的建议,他们会很高兴地来执行自己的策略。如果您否定了他们的建议,他们也不会特别坚持,而转为接受家庭的计划安排并认真执行。
时间观念:
时间表的执行方面,法国学生就像是美国学生和德国学生的特点的综合体。一方面很可靠很让家庭放心,另一方面也会发生迟到或者忘记某件事的现象。但只要及时指出,他们会认真道歉并真心改正。对于外出活动,法国年轻人同样充满热情,但不会像美国学生那样强烈要求。
沟通:
如果生活中发生了一些矛盾,法国学生往往会通过先忍耐再协商的态度来和家庭沟通。所以建议家庭要认真对待他们反应的问题,北京互惠生中心的工作人员也会及时协助。与法国学生沟通还是很容易的,他们既不像美国学生那样主见强烈,也不像德国学生那样容易固执。当然,由于中西文化的总体差异,直接沟通,有事当面指出并解决,对于法国学生也同样有效。
综合建议:
法国学生的特点是比较温和,适应性也很强。由于法国学生受本国文化影响,在文学或艺术方面的特长很普遍,包括绘画,音乐,写作等。如果家里的孩子在文科发展方面比较突出,或者家长对此有提前的规划,法国学生会是个很不错的选择。
I have been living in China for the past three and a half months, and to date it seems much more. I began this journey, with the help of HHS, to fill my curiosity about Chinese culture and way of life, hoping to learn the language and customs. So far in my time here I have been able to learn the history of China, its people, customs, mentality and still coming to terms with the language. Also traveling to different provinces has been a blast, and I do intend to continue doing this, I have seen so far Beijing, Kunming and Chengdu. Each one of them has their own spirit and soul. Beijing is a busy bee’s nest, where everything is pushed, packed and shipped by subway, but also what’s left or standing of history is incredible. Kunming, all the way to the south of China, is an entire disconnection from the busy life to an old way of life. There are countless rice pads on the side of huge mountains, where at both sunset and sunrise, the sun shines on them creating portals into another time. Currently I’m in Chengdu, a city that is famous for its history and food, so far I’ve only been eating. My goals for now are to see everything I can here in Chengdu about the history of China, and get to know the south of China.
All in all, my experience has had its highs and lows, and I might come to question the individual experiences, but the combination of them together is what I like. To me China is like its history and food, it’s a hotpot of different people and thoughts that work together as one.